What is with being bad?

I have grown up with stories of morality, goody good humans, sensitivity, gratitude and being helpful to others.  They (in this essay, ‘they’ means people or society) say that if I followed the set rules – then only I will be acceptable by society. They say if I do not follow these rules than I will be shunned by society and society shall have a right to judge me. They say that being a girl I have to know cooking, cleaning, stitching, mothering, housework and to balance between all odds and even. I have to be faithful to my husband and a ‘pure’ woman throughout life to be “seek” by my in-laws; who no one has seen yet.

I say, “why?”

Why do I have to prove myself in order to win a ‘husband?’ why have I to be accepted or neglected by society – who gave them rights to judge me? No one asked my permission – but, wait, are girls ALLOWED to speak or think? No, we are just a mere showpiece that has to better in comparison  to neighbors.

To all this, I say a big ‘NO.’  I choose a life for myself. When I was born, I was taught who my relatives are and I did not CHOOSE them. And, irrespective of that, what I do of my life or become that is solely my responsibility.

Yes, I am girl and I HATE housework. I cannot tolerate myself to dust things and set them in proper order. I have absolutely no problem with my room or house being scattered. Yes, I am a girl, and I have petrified of motherhood.  I like kids, but absolutely cannot stand their cries entire day or night or taking care of them. Yes, I am girl and I love to put on my pyjamas and old tee and roam around. Yes, I am a girl and I do not love dieting; I love eating. I cook occasionally – but, that doesn’t mean I am ready to spend my entire time there. I just HATE to make morning breakfast and tea. To add to it, I cannot even make round chappatis. Yes, I am a girl, I do have friends, and I hang out with them. Yes, I am a kind of girl who instead of serving guests would love to learn bike or rather go alone on a long drive. Yes, I am a girl, but I love laughing and talking in middle of my college and enjoy life. Yes, I am a girl, and I do love my job. I would rather sit at office than sit at home. Even if sitting on home calls; I would prefer to read than to complete chores. Yes, I am a girl, and I love travelling alone. Yes, I am a girl and I would love to go out for parties with friends and chill with them instead of staying closed up at home. Yes, I am girl who do not and will not ever follow norms. Yes, I am a girl – and girls can be themselves! They do not need to be taught who they have to be.

As I speak or type this out, I know many hands would be pointed and judgments will be passed. As I said earlier, I am a girl and I absolutely do not care if you judge me. My life cannot be defined by what people say.

They say after hearing my answers that since I do not suit their structure, I am bad.  I will not find a good house if I do not bend or mend my ways. I say, who is bothered to get married. They are hoping that I might be scared but the only thing I can is - Yes, I am a girl and I am proud of who I am.