Journey from ‘OR’ to ‘AND’
“Get married”, my aunt said.
“No. I do not want to”, I said firmly.
The discussion was called off. Asking an 18 year old to
get married just because “society says so” was not a reason acceptable by any
on us. Us, being my parents, my brother, and me.
Being born in a Sindhi family, my primary job was to get
married. No one and nobody thought beyond that. However, I am rather lucky that
my parents are unconventional Sindhi’s who value studies and let me do whatever
I want. They valued my independence, choice and knew that I can be much more
than just someone’s wife.
As years came, so came struggles and challenges. And, I
overcame them without compromising.
Studies
v/s Responsibilities: The first challenge life threw at me; was to
choose between higher studies OR home duties after I lost my mother at age of
19. But, I loved studying and wanted to study. Therefore, I choose to study AND
take care of my house. Of course, it was not an easy task but I flew this test
with excellence.
Career
v/s House Duties: After post-graduation came another test.
Choose your career or family. This time, I knew the challenge was tough because
of full-time job. So what I said? I took Career AND House duties. Today, I am
proud to be able to handle dual responsibilities flawlessly.
Career
v/s Cooking: Weird it may sound, but people often have
misconception that a working woman cannot cook well or do any household work.
Being a foodie, I have always time on my hand to cook something different every
day. I love food and believe that food connects people. And, no matter how
tired I am, I will always find to cook. Once again, I choose to work AND cook
lovely delicacies without any conflict.
While these are some of the basic fights, I fought; there
was something else bigger than it. Being a writer, was completely my decision AND
it was not a compromise for me. Many people and my family members advised me to
find a government job or go into teaching, I stood firm on my decision to be a
writer only.
Today, I work as content writer and many people for it
acknowledge me. Forums like Blog Adda help us to reach out and thanks to it;
those people who advised me are eating their words back.
Above
all, I choose to be Independent AND Strong AND Bold And to have absolute Freedom. The
struggle to do what I want was not easy. I still face many objections by people
around me. But I can truly say that I am free to do what I want – in my
personal and professional life. I achieved an absolute freedom and living up to
it.
When I reflect my life, I am happy to live it as I want
without compromising at any point.
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